Whoop! I’m thrilled to have been chosen as one of the 10 Best Dating Divas by Dating Advice, a website featuring articles from dating experts. There is a ‘senior’ category of dating mixed in among Gay/Lesbian, online dating, dating tips for men and tips for women. It came as a surprise to me, a nice one. And, in the upcoming weeks I’ll be writing a guest post for the site.
Writing useful and mainstream advice for the over 50 dating woman and man isn’t as easy as I thought it would be when I started The Diva of Dating blog. Most of what we see in the press is geared to a younger set. The basics of dating remain the same, but we have our own unique needs and, occasionally, challenges. Hook-ups and bar pickups aren’t in my repertoire. I’m guessing you feel the same?
Sex appeal? Yes, we do have sex appeal. What that looks like changes as we age. At 59, I am one of you. We come with slightly worn bodies—a beauty much like the patina on a much-loved piece of furniture. Little dings are commonplace, but we have a luster, mixed with the wisdom of age, that is much more appealing that a new shiny piece of cheaply fabricated material. Give me a classy antique made of solid wood any day.
Let me indulge in a little reverse ageism
Older men and women are more likely to observe the convention of “good manners”. We understand courtesy and good hospitality in a way that the younger generation may see as outdated and often unnecessary.
We tend to be more emotionally stable and secure in our sense of self.
We are still working, striving to make a meaningful life and pursuing our careers. We are past the angst-filled years. We have pretty much figured out who we are and our place in the world. Hopefully we’ve gone through our midlife crisis, if it is to be, and we are comfortable in our own skins.
Sexually we older women and men rock! Our experiences have informed us about what works and what doesn’t. We are more likely to talk about what we want and what pleases us. All that past activity and wisdom makes us better lovers.
Many of us didn’t think we would ever be dating at this age. Maybe, like me, you thought you married for life. Divorce or the death of a partner isn’t something we expect to happen at our age. It can hit us hard. But we rebound. We mourn our losses and move on. We may begin looking for a new long-term relationship, a dinner and movie companion or a close friend. Whatever your goal is, I would like to help you make that come true.
So, please continue to read and share and ask your questions. I am honored by your support.