When I started dating in the early 2000′s I knew two things–I hadn’t had sex in almost 2 years and I wanted it. What I didn’t realize was that my body and brain had shut down. I knew I wanted intimacy in my life but finding it was would be only half of the challenge. Years of so-so sex, often initiated by me just to keep my husband from complaining, had damaged my ability to feel desire. He was a happier man when he got it; I, on the other hand, simply shut down in the process. He never realized what was wrong (only a small part of the problem) and assumed sex=a good marriage.
I’ve had a two long term relationships since my divorce and dated what feels like hundreds of men. I’ve had great dates and awful dates, some of which involved sex….great sex, so-so sex and bad sex. Even the bad experiences provided lessons for me about intimacy.
At age 58 I feel sexually more alive and fulfilled than I ever did in my marriage. Learning to love who I am involved getting in touch with and developing my sensuous self, making peace (an ongoing process for many of us over 50) with my body and learning how to express my sexual needs.
Sex is an integral part of any relationship. As you begin the dating process you will want to address possible sexually-related issues in order to be ready for the intimacy you’re seeking. You may be struggling with menopause symptoms, or like I was, be dealing with the aftermath of an unsatisfying relationship. Whether you’re trying to regain your sense of sexuality, just beginning to develop your sensuous side, or simply looking for new ideas, I would like to help you.
I’ve put together a 30 day series called Awaken, Embrace, Ignite which will be running, starting today, at my blog, WalkerJThornton. Click on the image in the sidebar to be redirected to the blog series so you can participate in the month of exercises.