The online profile is your first and often only shot at attracting someone’s attention. It’s like the big interview. This is the moment when first impressions count.
No Excuses, please
But, wait… I have an IQ of 155 and can’t spell. Right. That’s why word processing applications have a feature called Spell Check. It’s for those of us who can’t spell. Or those of us who want to make extra sure we look good.
Here’s what I think when I see bad spelling on a dating profile (not necessarily in order of importance):
- You’re not smart enough for me.
- You aren’t interested in making a good impression.
- You were drunk when you wrote it.
- You didn’t put much thought or time into your profile–it was hastily thrown together because you’re in a hurry to get laid.
- I wonder if you’re a scammer–pretending to be from Missouri when English clearly isn’t your first language.
All of those are turn-offs for every potential match out there reading your profile!
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I recently got an email solicitation from a supposed media professional asking to buy ad space on The Diva of Dating for his client. I’m going to say no. The main reason (there are some others troubling concerns)? I doubt this person is a professional–he/she spelled 3 words wrong and used excessive commas. The email was not well written. What kind of ‘major company’ would hire someone with such bad writing skills to be their representative? I understand that not everyone is a writer, but when the writing is the crucial first step in connecting with someone it better be good.
It’s the same with a date.
I ran across a profile recently where the guy used commas instead of apostrophes. Clearly he didn,t bother to proof his writing. I want to date a man who pays a little more attention. It sounds petty and maybe you,re thinking it,s a small thing. And, it is. It looks odd doesn,t it?
A well written profile will often compel me to look more closely at someone whose face, on first glance, might not immediately draw me in. A well written profile means the person is serious about putting himself out there in his or her quest to find a mate.
Aren’t you looking for that kind of person?
How are you going to make your online profile shine?
- Write your profile on a word document first. Use their spell check and grammar corrections. Then do a copy and paste to the dating site.
- Do what most writers do. Write your information, hit the save button and come back later with fresh eyes to do an edit. Read it aloud to see how it sounds. That will often help you pick up mistakes.
- Find a friend to read it for you and offer suggestions.
- Hire me to help get your online dating profile in good shape.