The Diva of Dating-Guest Posts
Single Again and Nervous About Sex? Some Tips for the Newly Single Woman- Bloom Enjoy Yourself
Many divorced or widowed women find themselves single and entering the dating world again. Facing the prospect of having sex with a new guy can be overwhelming, exciting and a little scary.
Maybe you have a few hang-ups about your body or the thought of having sex again? Based on your age, the number of years you were married and your prior sexual life it’s natural to have concerns. Here are the ones I mostly commonly hear:
- I don’t want him to see me naked.
- Suppose I can’t please him? Suppose I don’t orgasm?
- My sex life with my last partner wasn’t very good.
- The thought of having sex with a new man terrifies me.
- Do I have to worry about sexually transmitted infections and HIV?
- What if I think about my ex while having sex with a new guy?
- How soon is it appropriate to have sex?
Too Sexy For My Shirt? - Better After 50
What does it mean when we talk about dressing for sex? Is it about wearing short, tight skirts or sporting a lacy bra under a sheer blouse? Dressing for sex is about acknowledging ourselves as sexual women—it’s about letting the world know that being over 50 isn’t an ending, it’s a beginning. A juicy, tantalizing, energizing time of life.
Sexy is a state of mind. We can be sexy at 50, 65, even 75. The secret to tapping into one’s sexuality involves feelings, attitude and, less importantly, looks. We can rock that sexy attitude wearing jeans or all dolled up with heels and hose.
Dating Tips For Boomer Men: What Women Like in a Man- a Huffington Post blog.
Are you one of the tens of thousands of men looking for a woman on an online dating site? Don’t you wish you had the magic answer that would make finding a woman easier? We all want that magic answer, but there isn’t one. However there are things you can do to attract a woman — if you know what women want from a man.
My Resolution: To Be a Sex Goddess - Better After 50
If you’ve seen my profile at The Huffington Post, you’ll notice that I called myself “Writer, Sex Goddess.” Admittedly I agonized over that, briefly. I sought opinions from my friends on Facebook before submitting my short bio.
Why shouldn’t I call myself a Sex Goddess? Don’t we tell little girls they can be anyone or anything they want? Aren’t we able to recreate ourselves at every stage of life?
The Excuse I Refuse to Accept- “It’s Complicated” – My first post as a Huffington Post Blogger!
He tells me “‘it’s complicated” with a shrug and a smile. It’s his response to the unasked question about his marriage. I get it. Life is complicated. Relationships are complicated. None of us would disagree with that. But, I don’t have to accept it. This guy is just another in a stream of men I’ve talked to or met lately who are married. They’re on dating sites, all in their late 50s and looking for a woman to “date.” Apparently “it’s complicated” is meant to be a sufficient explanation for the apparent contradiction of being married yet looking for a woman to “date.” It has become the adult version of “the dog ate my homework.” What they’re really saying is I don’t want to address my issues yet and I want you to believe that I would change things if I could. In reality I’m too afraid, too lazy, too greedy or too overwhelmed to get a divorce.
Online Dating Disasters: How To Have a Great First Date- a guest post on Be a Date Diva, the blog and website.
It’s your first date. There’s a mix of excitement and anticipation as you wait for him to arrive. Someone walks in the door; he looks vaguely familiar. Is this the guy?
Not what you were expecting? Sometimes people lie to us, to put it bluntly. They shave off a few, or a lot of years, from their age. They fail to let us know they’ve gained 50 pounds or lost most of their hair. Or worse, they’re so far off from what you want in a date that you can’t imagine how to get through the next 15 minutes, much less a whole dinner.
“Shameless” — Author Pamela Madsen’s Sexual Journey by Walker Thornton- a book review on StyleSubstanceSoul.com, an online site dedicated to women who want to lead a life of passion, compassion and action.
How many of us have wished for a more exciting sex life? Have realized that our marriage has become one of routine with few sparks? Pamela Madsen woke up one day to the realization that she wanted a steamier sex life. That discovery led her on a journey that would change her life — and could change yours.
58, Single and Loving It!, my post on Met Another Frog, online magazine for men and women about mating and dating.
After starting the process of leaving my marriage in 2000 I dived headfirst into online dating. Confused, lonely and eager for good sex…or really, any sex, I made some wildly awful decisions. And, I had some fun here and there. Starting with what might be seen by some as losing my virginity all over again.
It took 18 months without intimate touch for me to realize I couldn’t go without sex. I hastily put up a dating profile and spent hours perusing online dating sites in search of a man. I tackled the problem like my life depended on it. I didn’t embark on a casual playful romp, I threw myself into it—neurotically.
Over 50, Single and Dating-What You Need To Know, was featured on The Indie Chicks, An Online Magazine for the Bad Ass Independent Woman.
Imagine a woman over 50, who suddenly finds herself single again and longing for companionship. In my case I had been without sex or any sort of affection for almost two years. I craved connection. I wanted sex. But, I had no clue of how to go about finding what I wanted. I turned to an online personals site.
That was 12 years ago. Separated and moving slowly towards divorce, I was determined, impulsive, naïve and hampered by my desires to find a man. The results were humorous, pathetic and exhilarating–in equal measure. My first sexual encounter was disastrous. He had a tiny half-erect penis that he tried, repeatedly, to shove in while saying something about forgetting how small it was…. Horrifying. Undoubtedly the worst sexual experience of my life.
A 40Plus Woman Dates on 40Plus Woman, a Community for 40Plus Women
When I uttered those fateful words in 2000, I‘m done, I never imagined myself 12 years later still single and writing about dating. And sex. I wasn’t thinking about a long-term relationship when I signed up for my first online dating account with AOL Personals. I was lonely, wanting sex and not thinking logically. The initial plan was just to get laid. It had been about 18 months and I craved touch and affection. What I ended up with was the worst sexual experience of my life. It’s laughable now. I was such a poor judge at that point in time.